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Reflections

12/13/2022

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"A reflection from a flickering candle cast its silhouette upon the wall as the Christmas Carol fades and the bells jingle grows still." Karen Spencer

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We will soon be welcoming in the New Year.  Are you ready?  

Each year after the holidays have ended, I carefully take down my last year's calendar and flip over the past year, remembering...and giving thanks. 

As I look over the past and feel anxious for the future; it feels as if I were standing in the middle of a bridge connecting the past and the future. 

Although I'm anxious to hurry along, rush through the gate with my new intentions and resolutions; I hold myself back.  Instead, I stop and gaze at the year as if it were a pool of water, glistening on a moon lit night, reflecting its surroundings. 

I find my ragged journal, warn out and nearly used up and begin writing. I have questions I have collected over the years and use them to guide me along.

I begin with positive memorable events of the past year. I write about the many blessings God showered over me.  I write about challenges I faced and lessons I learned.

I write about the guilt that I have decided to leave behind and the people I choose to forgive.

I write about the fears I am ready to let go.

And finally, I write a prayer thanking God for His gracious gifts, His on-going grace and His everlasting mercy, new each and every day. 

Then I close the book's cover and place it on a shelf, with the others.

It's time to cross the bridge and walk into the future.

I walk over to my box of brand new and unused journals and find the perfect one; patiently waiting for its turn. It pages will too be filled with my thoughts, ideas and words.  It too will hold my secrets in this brand-new year.

Here is a list of the questions I have used to help me reflect on the past years. Perhaps they will help you as well.

                        

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​Are you Turning your ideas into Action? If not, why not?

12/11/2022

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Are You Turning Your Ideas into Action? | Sixty and Me
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​​One day I walked into the living room and said to my husband.  “I have this idea that won’t leave me alone.  I know it is probably a really dumb idea but, I just can’t seem to let it go.” 
“What idea is that?”  My husband asked as he peeked around his morning newspaper. 
“Well,” I said…tiptoeing my way into the conversation. “I have been thinking that maybe I might like to sign up for a health coaching certification program.”
“So, you ‘maybe’ ‘might’ want to be a health coach?”  My husband asked.
 “Yeah maybe” I said, “It’s just an idea.” 
 “Well then,” my husband said patiently, “Why don’t you sign up for the program?”
“Because the program it is not cheap, and I am not even sure I really want to be a health coach.”
“Ok” he said…” then don’t sign up.” 
“But it just feels like a good idea that I don’t want to pass up on.”
My husband stuck his nose back in his newspaper and was silent.
After a few minutes he spoke, “Karen, I think that if you want to do it, you should do it.”
“But here is another problem.” I responded. “I am 68 years old now.  And the certification program takes a year to complete.”
“So?”
“So that means I will be 69 years old when I get my coaching certification! 69 years old!”
“And so, Karen”, he said, “how old will you be in a year if you don’t sign up for the program?”
I whispered.  “I will be 69”.
  “Yep,” he retorted matter-of-factly, “and without that health coaching certification”.

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 Can you relate to my example?
 Do you have an idea or a dream?   And do you think about taking action on it…someday…maybe?
 
Have you considered that your good idea may not keep?  What if you were given the good idea, as a gift on loan. And that the good idea actually has an expiration date on it? After which time, if you don’t begin to act on it…. then poof…it floats on to a more deserving soul; someone who will actually do something with it.

I can hear you saying it now, “I want to be the deserving soul, but I still feel stuck. I just can’t seem to make up my mind to get started.”

Would I make you feel better to remind you that you are not alone?
  
Lately, I have been particularly conscious of hearing others talking about their dreams and ideas. Ideas that get them motivated, excited and full of anticipation. Ideas like: going back to school, beginning a new project, starting a volunteer group, committing to a new health plan, a new invention, creating a website, building a product, taking on a new challenge.  I'm reminded that there are really a ton of great ideas and unfulfilled dreams out there. A ton of ideas that no one is taking action on.

I wonder what kind of tsunami we could create if all of us over the age of fifty-five banned together and actually did something with our ideas.

Can you even begin to imagine what that would look like?

I say, let’s not waste any more time. Let’s do this thing!

Using the acronym IDEAS; we can work through the following steps. First:  Identify your idea, then Decide to do it, Engineer a plan, Act on it and finally Share it.
 
I -Identify your Idea
 
A few of us are crystal clear on what it is we feel driven to do. But I would venture to say the rest of us are foggy, unsure, or all over the place.  Which one are you?
 
Perhaps you experience a flickering insight or a hunch or just that whispering inner voice reminding you there is still work to be done.
 
Here’s an exercise to help shake out and clarify your ideas: Don’t think too much about it and don’t judge your list; just quickly write it down…no matter how small or impossible it may seem.

  • What is something you often talk about doing one day?
  • What is something you want to do, to create or to achieve before you die?
  • What is it that lights you up when you dream about doing it?
  • What is one thing you have recently been thinking about doing to serve others?
  • What do you feel pulled/called to in your life?
  • What is an idea you have had for years?
  • What is something that when you think back on it you wish you ‘would have, could have, should done?”
  • If you were creating a vision of what your utmost and best life could look like a year from now, what would you have accomplished?
  • If you knew it wasn’t too late and you were guaranteed success; what idea would you take action on?
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Once you have finished with your brainstorming, go back and circle the things that most resonate with you. Is there one idea that stands out and cries for your attention?

D- Decide to Do it!
Be honest now…this idea you identified has probably been with you for a while and you haven’t done a darn thing with it, right?
Listen to what Alfred North Whitehead, mathematician and philosopher, tells us.
“Ideas won't keep. Something must be done about them."  
And so, my friends, let’s get on with it and take the next step. This is the part where we decide to do it; not just think about it, talk about it, or dream about it.
 
What is it that has been holding you back thus far?
 
Do any of these lame excuses sound familiar to you?

  • I’m too old.
  • It’s too late.
  • It will cost too much.
  • I would do it if I were younger and had more energy.
  • I don’t know if my idea will work.
  • People might say I’m being ridiculous wanting to do this at my age.
  • I’m not sure I have the resources to make it happen.
  • I don’t have enough education?
  • What if my idea is stupid?
  • What if it takes too long?
  • What if I fail?
  • It’s too hard and I prefer to take the path of least resistance.
  • Someone has probably already done it before,
  • Someone else would do it better than me.
  • I don’t have enough skills or knowledge.
  • I am too late for the train; I should have gotten on board years ago.
  • I don’t know enough about the technology it would take to do it.
  • Someday I’ll get to it; maybe next week, next month, next year….
 
I beg you, do not let another year go by with your dream still in your mind and on your heart. It is time for you to decide to do it.
 
And as soon as you decide to do it, then declare it!  Whether it’s telling a trusted friend, posting it on Facebook or standing on the mountain top and shouting it out to the world.  “I am going to turn my idea into a reality!”
 
E Engineer a plan –
 
Once you identify your dream and decide to do it, then celebrate!
Set a date for your planning party and get your pens, pencils, rulers, colorful markers and large pieces of paper ready because, it is time to engineer your plan.  

  • Write out your goal
  • Break down the steps to accomplishing your goal.
  • Draw out a time line and identify milestones for celebration
  • Make a list of the resources you will need.
  • Write down your perceived challenges and next to them, how to resolve them.
  • Be sure to identify a list of people who can help you. 
 
Caution: Like all plans you can get too wrapped up in all the specifics…just get started!

A-Act on your plan
 
I wonder if we thought our time was limited with the chance to do something with our good idea, would we be more willing to begin the labor?

You have to admit, talking about your idea and dreaming about it are the easy parts. Even the engineering of a plan can seem like a fun play day activity. But the actual doing it…now that takes work.

In his book titled 'Love Does' Bob Goff writes these inspirational words. “Let me tell you what I do when I don’t know what to do to move my dreams down the road. I usually just try to figure out what the next step is and then do that. I know it sounds too simple, too formulaic; it seems like there must be more to it. But there isn’t. For most of us, the next step is as easy as picking up the phone, sending an e=mail, writing a letter, buying a plane ticket, or just showing up. After that, things start happening; things that perhaps have God’s fingerprints on them. You’ll know which ones do and which ones don’t. Pick the ones that do.”

Did you get that? Figure out what the next step is and then do that!

When I first came across Goff words, I was suddenly struck by how profound they were. I began thinking about the people I know that have taken their dream and turned it into reality and sure enough, that’s what they did, isn’t it? They just took the next step.
 
S- Share it
 
One would think that this is a ‘no brainer’.  But I fear that way too many of us have turned our good idea into reality and then went and stashed it in the closet or set it up on the shelf.  Raise your hand if that is you?
 
“Starting isn’t enough,” writes Seth Godin in his book Ship it. “It’s that follow through to the end that matters. Creating and doing the work is hard, yes, but nothing compares to the difficulty many people have actually shipping. Amazing ideas and incredible projects die at the hands of people who think just one more tweak, one more proofread, one more change is needed before putting that project out into the world.”
 
So now that you know the steps; it is time to begin: Identify the idea, Decide to do it, Engineer a plan, Act on the plan, and Share it.
 
And speaking of sharing…It would be such fun to read about your ideas and dreams.
 
Have you decided to do it?  if so, what is your first action step?  We would love to support you on your journey.


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